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How to limit your anxiety while blending a family
Michael Evan Blair • May 01, 2020
Did you know that 67% of all second marriages fail? It's true. Furthermore, anxiety concerning the children is often a cause for a second marriage to fail.
Today, with the national divorce rate increasing, second marriages are too. However, the reality of wanting a permanent happily-ever-after feeling may never come. About 30% of second marriages do not last over three years. Sadly, this is especially true when there are children involved in the new marriage.
Blending a family is hard. An increase in arguments, rivalries, and anxiety can push anyone to a breaking point. If this is your experience, don't lose hope. With the right therapist, you can have a successful marriage.
Why do second marriages end?
There are many reasons why second marriages end. Typically, couples who decide to get remarried have children from a previous marriage. The children are not the problem, and it is harmful to view them as such. However, many couples say they ended the marriage due to issues regarding the children.
Couples with children from previous relationships have added complications to work through. One complication is there are more relationships to nurture. Additionally, there may be parenting styles in place that you disagree with. Furthermore, there is likely another parent involved. Past circumstances and relationships can influence the relationship too. These complexities can create anxiety and contention. Without conflict resolution skills, there will likely be a breakdown in communication. A lack of communication can cause a marriage to collapse. Communication is crucial when working through anxiety and more so when it involves blending a family.
What can you do to avoid anxiety while blending a family?
Start by committing to "making it work at all cost." This mindset will become very important to your success. A good relationship with your spouse is critical for your marriage to be successful. It is also essential for blending a family. Take time to continue to "date" your spouse. Plan and carry out dates for just the two of you. Be intentional with your time together. Set aside any distractions and focus on each other. Enjoy having fun together. Dating can be the key to keeping your relationship solid. You can use this time to talk about any anxiety you're feeling. A weekly date helps keep the foundation of your relationship secure. It can also help keep anxiety from taking over.
Next, set intentional time for strengthening the relationships with the children. Gather together to work on forming trust and safety. The goal is to keep everyone focused on blending the family. At Blair Counseling and Coaching, we recommend consulting with a certified therapist
to find the best ways to blend your families.
Blair Counseling and Coaching can help you heal from past relationships and relieve anxiety.
At Blair Counseling and Coaching, we understand the complexities of blending a family. We specialize in helping couples and children blend together. It is common for many people to experience anxiety while blending a family. Parents and children alike can carry anxieties that impact the relationship. We can help you identify and work through your anxiety. With help from a therapist, everyone involved can find hope and happiness while blending a family.
Many couples and children are enjoying successful second marriages. Your family can be one of them. If you would like to have help blending your family, please call Blair Counseling and Coaching today!
We look forward to working with you.
Written by
Michael Evan Blair, LMFT
Has a Masters Degree from BYU is in Child Development and Family Relations, and I am licensed in Utah as a Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT). I can provide all the mental health services that any clinician with a masters’ degree is legally allowed to provide.<br><br>Because I am a 25-year veteran experienced master practitioner in NLP, Neuro Linguistic Programming, I also legitimately provide coaching outside of my state licensure as a specialist in emotional pain relief and reprogramming.
Written by
Michael Evan Blair, LMFT
Has a Masters Degree from BYU is in Child Development and Family Relations, and I am licensed in Utah as a Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT). I can provide all the mental health services that any clinician with a masters’ degree is legally allowed to provide. Because I am a 25-year veteran experienced master practitioner in NLP, Neuro Linguistic Programming, I also legitimately provide coaching outside of my state licensure as a specialist in emotional pain relief and reprogramming.
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